been reading some more on Glasser and Choice Theory
Choice Theory�… It states that all we do is behave, that almost all behavior is chosen, and that we are driven by our genes to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun. In practice, the most important need is love and belonging, as closeness and connectedness with the people we care about is a requisite for satisfying all of the needs.
and
We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World
(http://www.wglasser.com/whatisct.htm)
our quality world
Choice Theory posits the existence of a “Quality World” in which, starting at birth and continuing throughout our lives, we place those things that we highly value: primarily the people who are important to us, things we prize, and systems of belief, i.e. religion, cultural values and icons, etc.
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choice_theory)
the reason for all this waffle is that I have been thinking a lot about who/what is in my quality world and whether I need to change some of the pictures I have in there…
marriage and family are in my quality world but they are also something that I don’t have at the moment… it seems that some of my feelings around these issues are popping up in situations that I think are inappropriate… (the vault is not locked down as tight as I thought!)
i don’t have the words I want